Yes! Maybe what we did didn't help, or made things worse. I'd believe that in a minute, I've screwed up before! But if you don't learn how to live with yourself, all of yourself, you can't figure out what to do about it! You can't grow and change and move on from the past or take responsibility for what you've done! You just keep putting stuff away someplace secret till something breaks and you don't even remember why you didn't want that to happen any more.